This brother called to wish me compliments of the new year.<\/p>\n
We spoke a bit about how in South Africa we do things the same way in passing resolution but expect different results.<\/p>\n
Well you cannot donthings the same way and expect to be a different person. It isbeither you change while alive or yiu arendead.<\/p>\n
There are a lot of men and women who died at 21 to live to 80 years.<\/p>\n
Do you catch my drift?<\/p>\n
But I just listened. Let the man have his say. He is entitled to his opinion. I have learned you don’t debate opinion.<\/p>\n
I grew up in e-loxion, Diepkloof in Soweto. Life is a mess there. Nothing is under your control. In fact, it is what it is. But it depends on how you look at things.<\/p>\n
Growing up in the township, life has rich lessons.<\/p>\n
I know men who stay in their mothers’ houses until they turn 65 or older. They turn a garage into a home to raise families.<\/p>\n
You know this back room story. People have lost jobs and everything else. Home is where the heart is.<\/p>\n
I have seen men pack to go to university late in life, in the mid-30s. They graduate at 40 years or later, sitting in class with boys and girls old enough to be their own children.<\/p>\n
I have always wondered: What happened? Where have they been? Why the delay?<\/p>\n
Maybe they are late bloomers. Don’t tell me about apartheid. Not yet. It is what it is.\u00a0 It still happens today, 22 years into freedom.<\/p>\n
Also depends on how you look at it.<\/p>\n
Over the years I have come across a lot of 20-something year olds that obtained Masters degrees and PhDs from previous whites only universities. Wits, Rhodes, UCT. Others have been to the Ivy League, Harvard and all.<\/p>\n
Upon engaging on an intellectual or political level you soon discover that all they know is what they were taught or studied by a racist education system.<\/p>\n
They have no clue about the dynamics of a racist capitalist society.<\/p>\n
The thing is, the more degrees you have, the more the\u00a0 assumption that you intelligent. Yet you a product of rote learning education system. You don’t question anything.<\/p>\n
But this does not prevent you from occupying the first table. Your degrees are your status. You are a VVIP at functions and events.<\/p>\n
I was friends with young men about town with strings of girlfriends. They made girls pregnant leaving them with two, three children to marry someone else.<\/p>\n
Some of the brothers got married to unfaithful women who were made pregnant by secret lovers. Apparently the good looking husbands had low sperm count.<\/p>\n
But don’t judge.<\/p>\n
I have seen high school lovers break each others’ hearts as they got married to other people due to family pressure. Or desire for security and comfort.<\/p>\n
I have met girls whose fathers have never owned a bicycle but would ask a man what car he drives. They looked down on those with second hand cars.<\/p>\n
I have shared good times and company with high school drop outs with no qualifications or matric. But they have managed to hit a score to end up with loads of money.<\/p>\n
Some were just plain thugs who robbed and killed if necessary. Others became comrades, bringing gangsterization into the struggle.<\/p>\n
Who said money cannot buy you status and power. Or pretending to be a freedom fighter will not earn you good positions.<\/p>\n
But there are other socalled heroes who do matric at 60 years. This is after they have been confirmed to be achievers in their own right.<\/p>\n
It would seem they love education qualifications.<\/p>\n
You may be wondering what the point of these slices of life are about. Well, this is life. It is what it is.<\/p>\n
You see, you don’t have to worry about the meaning of success or achievement. Dont look at the next man or woman.<\/p>\n
Leave the hustler to do his own thing.<\/p>\n
Your business is to know yourself.<\/p>\n
Tell us why you are here on earth, man. If you 25 years and still don’t know your purpose, you still won’t know it at 50.<\/p>\n
If you 50 and don’t have a lifetime partner or a place of your own, look at the danger signs.\u00a0 They are all over. It is a wasted life.<\/p>\n
But let’s not judge.<\/p>\n
Remember, the Father has a master plan just for you. Do you know what it is? Are you fulfilling your mission?<\/p>\n
Don’t envy the next man or woman. Don’t even think of comparing yourself to someone else, the next man or woman.<\/p>\n
Don’t believe the hype about ‘all men are equal.’ It is a nice sounding pipe dream. Politicians with VVIP status love to say we equal.<\/p>\n
Listen to Moreki. Life is about what he stands for in a money driven society.<\/p>\n
Every man is unique. Every woman is different. No two people are the same. So how can they be equal.<\/p>\n
I’m just thinking aloud.<\/p>\n
Life is diverse. We come from different backgrounds. Not even siblings from the same family turn out the same in life.<\/p>\n
Do your thing. Live your life.<\/p>\n
To do that you must march to your own drum beat. You must dance to your own music. Find your own rhythm.<\/p>\n
Life! It is what it it.<\/p>\n
After 22 years of democracy and freedom, the rules for success have not changed. They are unlikely to.<\/p>\n
You gonna live once. Discover your purpose.\u00a0 Be true to yourself.<\/p>\n
Don’t worry too much. Rest satisfied with what you have. You have something.\u00a0 It is in you.<\/p>\n
Who will you be in 2017? All the best !!!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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